So lately I have been thinking about the relationship I am in and how different it is to my previous "relationships" with other guys. All this thinking made me realize that no matter how much we try to force ourselves in thinking our significant other is "the one", only God knows who He has made for you as a life partner.
Now I'm not going to get all lovey dovey on y'all in this post, but there's no doubt in my mind that Jacob(my boyfriend) is the man I'm going to marry. I can't express the comfort and peace I have in knowing that. What I find even more comforting is that I didn't tell myself I'm going to marry Jacob, God told me.
I used to force myself to like certain guys just so that I could tell my friends I was talking to someone. I've even been heart broken by a Godly guy. With that guy, I told myself I would marry him. I don't know what made me think I could marry a man I was settling for.
That's the difference in being with a man God wants you to marry. The word settling isn't used. You should never have to think to yourself "I hate that he does that but I can live with it". You should see every aspect of your man and think how you love that he does that. Sure, every person has flaws. I have flaws and I know that.
You might be in the same situation I was in highschool. I considered myself a Christian, but when it came to the guys I dated I didn't care at all if the guy was a Christian. If he was cute and single, he was enough. My standards as a Godly girl were so low. It's funny to look back on all the times I cried because I thought I wasn't good enough for anyone after getting hurt by unGodly guys. I realize now that it wasn't because I wasn't good enough. It was because I was trying to create relationships with nonbelievers.
2 Corinthians 6:14 "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do rightousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?"(NIV)
Of course I desired a Godly relationship, but that is extremely hard to find in high school.
I've always been a strong believer in dating to marry instead of dating just to date. Maybe that's why Jacob is my first real boyfriend. I truly believe that a Godly relationship should have somewhat of a vision of marriage. I don't mean on the first date you should start wedding planning, but as you get to know this person you should think "is this a quality I want in a husband?"
The point of this post is to show you that no matter how much you convince yourself you can settle for a guy, God has chosen someone for you. He knows the perfect timing of you meeting that person. If you're single and waiting for that moment then treasure that time of singleness. Submerge your love in the Lord. Allow yourself to find peace and comfort in Him. God is selfish. He desires your love and attention. Give that to him with no restraint.
Claire
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